I wanted to talk about this topic because I believe a lot of times mom's feel like they are failing. I have been there and have had to get myself together. No mom is a super mom. We are humans and can only do so much. I learned this the hard way. I remember when I first found out I was pregnant, I felt guilty about not being able to be a stay-at-home mom. I knew once I had my son I would have to go back to work eventually to help with the bills. I remember having a lot of conversations with my husband about my desire to stay home. At 8 months pregnant I was able to stop working and stay home until my son was 9 weeks. I was home for 12+ weeks and I dreaded it. Most days I would be bored out my mind and calling my husband, asking him to come home early. I learned on that leave I was meant to work and not stay at home. Before my maternity leave, I use to get mad at myself for not being able to be a stay-at-home mom. But I realized it was not for me, I needed to get out of the house.
If you are a stay-at-home mom that is great, but it is not for everyone. I say the same for full time working moms. Going to work all day and being away from your kids is not for everyone. Everyone must do what is best for them and their household. Make the best decision for your family and be happy with it. If you do not get a choice that is ok too. Do what you can do.
I laugh at this now but years ago I labelled myself as a "super mom". At the time I was working full time, going to school full time, pregnant with our second child, a mom of a toddler, and a wife. I would work all day then I would head to school for 3 hours. After school I would go home and cook then clean. After all that I would get some homework done and finally sleep. At the time I thought I was a super mom for being able to juggle so many things. In reality I wouldn't accept help from my husband and overwhelmed myself daily.
Sometimes as moms we try to juggle too much. You cannot overwhelm yourself. You must make time for yourself in the day somewhere. Lean on your partner for help. If you are a single mom, make sure you allow extra time for yourself. It is ok to take care of yourself for once. I know we have a lot of responsibilities at times, but we must do better and stop spreading our self too thin.
Fast forward to my third pregnancy where I was suck on bedrest and unable to help. I thought as a mom I was a failure. I could not cook, clean, and my hormones had me all over the place. I had to learn to accept help at that point because I was out of commission. No matter what, you are a great mother. If you can juggle a lot that is great. If you cannot juggle a lot that is great. If you are a stay-at-home mom, great. If you work full time and your kids are in daycare that is great. You are a mom. We make sacrifices and do what we must do. Sometimes we are nurses, sometimes we are counselors, sometimes we are referees, and sometimes we are their strength. We are MOMS and unfortunately, it is a job we cannot quit.
If you want to do more than do it. You want to spend more time with your kids, do it. You want to get time away from your kids, do it. Only thing I suggest we stop doing is criticizing ourselves as moms. Do what you can do and stop getting on yourself for what you cannot do. If you can do more then do more. Just do your best!
Until next time! Have a blessed day!
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