This topic OMG. I have grown so much. There was a time this topic was hard to talk about. If you know my first born you know he is SPOILED to his dad. When he was a baby, he would cry non-stop until his dad picked him up. If I touched him or tried to tend to him, he would cry. Once he was a toddler it was better, but I still had a hard time swallowing the fact that my son wanted nothing to do with me. Of course, you hear about most boys being mama's boys so I just assumed he would be all about me. NOPE. He knew who I was but wanted NOTHING to do with me. I struggled with this for years. Honestly, I only got over it because we had a second child who was all about me.
What makes a child prefer one parents over the other. I do not think it is a specific thing, just their preference. We have preferences so how can we get mad at them having them. I think one of my issues was most people comments. I heard comments like: OMG I have never seen a baby spoiled to their dad. Why doesn't your son like you? Do you take care of your son? Just foolery. I was around of course he just preferred his dad. Deep down I liked that my son wanted his dad. It shows that fathers do matter. It showed that fathers being in their kids’ lives makes a difference.
I know this is a blog about mothers, but fathers matter too. Sometimes we (moms) forget that. I do not know how many women I have talked to who think moms are the only ones who can make decision for kids. I do not agree with that. I think dads should be able to be in their kids’ lives and make decision. Before I continue let me tell everyone now, based on a married couple (mom and dad) with kids. I cannot give an opinion on something I have not been through. I have nothing against single mom or dads, dead beat moms or dad, or co-parenting. Back to what I was stating, dads’ matter. If more dads would give their opinions and be present, I think more kids will be split. What I mean by split is some will like mom more and some will like dad more.
As moms we expect things to go one way but sometimes, they go another way. This can apply for pregnancy, labor, baby sleep schedule, or like my situation who the baby prefers. I wanted to discuss this topic because moms are hard on themselves. I know I was at one time. We must know its ok when things do not go your way. Just must be the best you can be. If your baby is spoiled to dad great! Let the baby bond and build a great relationship with their dad. Dads are becoming rare so a child who has both parents are lucky.
Now this topic is not to tell anyone how to feel. Just giving some insight. Like I said this is a topic I struggled with for years. This is not something serious and there is nothing wrong with a child being spoiled by their dad. It is a blessing for a child to have their dad in their life. Fathers are needed. Its ok if your child has preferences. Be a great mom. They notice you and they need you too. Avoid the arguments with dad and let him help. Moms have so much to do let dad help with the kids. I had to learn this. I was trying to be superwoman and had to learn to relax. I had to learn how to lean on my partner. There is nothing wrong with letting dad do more with the kids while you tend to other stuff. You are still a good mom!
Until next time be blessed!
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